The Sub-Birthday Present

This is an interesting email I received earlier this week:

“Hi sweetie,

I am looking for a beautiful lady to role play with this Friday (a dom/sub role play).  

It is my husband's birthday and you are my surprise birthday present to him. I've discussed this before with him, but he doesn't know that I am surprising him next Friday ;)

It will be a dom/sub session including bondage with me as your Mistress and him as your Master. Of course, It all depends on your comfort level of course and we will take it slowly. 

It will be completely consensual and safe words will be used.

Let me know what you think as soon as you can.

Love,

Nancy (name changed for privacy)”

I declined her offer.  

There were a couple things that gave me a bad feeling about this invite, and as an independent escort I listen to my gut feeling 100% of the time. 

Although I do enjoy a good bondage session and role play in general, I will not be the submissive in bondage the first time I meet someone, even more so for a couple.  Safe words and promises mean nothing if trust has not been fully established between me and them. 

However, you might be surprised to hear that it wasn’t their dom/sub bondage request that bothered me the most.  It was more so the way her (Nancy) writing style came across to me that spooked me most. 

The way that she said I would be the gift for him, an implied assumption, a woman appearing as friendly and trust-worthy in order to draw another woman into a vulnerable situation, using the word Love. 

These features in her written email make me think of some horrible crimes that are currently in the courts whereby young women/girls were lured by other women into situations where they were raped and murdered.  

For example:

- Aleksandra Firgan-Hewie was murdered by Michelle Liard and her boyfriend, Rafal LaSota. 

- Tori Stafford, the young girl who was raped and murdered by Terri-Lynne McClintic and her boyfriend Michael Rafferty.

- And how could we ever forget about Paul Bernardo and Karla Holmoka?? 

Now, with this being said, I may be totally wrong about ‘Nancy’ and her husbands intentions for Friday night. But I’m not willing to take that chance. 

I understand there is always an inherent level of risk in my line of work.  But I have drawn a clear line in my mind regarding what acts I’m comfortable doing and where I will go.  Have no doubts that I have certain safety and security checks in place.   I would not be doing this work by choice if I wasn’t cool with it.  

I didn’t intend to share this story with the objective to scare my readers. Don’t lose any sleep over this please!  Personally, I just rolled my eyes when I read it and thought it might be good material for the blog.   These days I’m feeling pretty good, healthy and sane - good for me but bad for the BSW blog perhaps.  Don't fret my friends, I expect I’ll still have some good material to write about from my escort work and the media always seems to throw me a bone every once in a while.   Stayed tuned.